tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8121143914762345890.post6043556500803068920..comments2023-10-18T10:11:50.053-05:00Comments on The North Star: Voices that Choose, Memories that LiveThe North Starhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11220463321465182294noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8121143914762345890.post-24818555663007365212007-11-10T17:46:00.000-05:002007-11-10T17:46:00.000-05:00Hey all.Sorry, I've been absent.The "they" in the ...Hey all.<BR/><BR/>Sorry, I've been absent.<BR/><BR/>The "they" in the last sentence refers to those who witness our act of departure.<BR/><BR/>I end with this sentence because I think we live on in the consciousness of people as actors and believers, people who believed something was right and acted on those principles. I think in many ways we haunt those who leave. And, ultimately, our potential representative presence (the stuff we believe, more than ourselves) dwelling inside others gives me hope that change can come.<BR/><BR/>Naima, I am not sure if this example neatly breaks across gender lines. However, I think it significantly changes with relationships and sites where we believe love existed. I completely admit to using a stranger or casual friend paradigm in this essay as other types of breaks require a lot more energy and thought, including possibly shaking up one's societal framework to make a loved one more of a stranger in some ways. However, this is a project that comes from one who tries to love strangers too.Joshuahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17938875004056523434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8121143914762345890.post-68950048840648140572007-11-08T01:45:00.000-05:002007-11-08T01:45:00.000-05:00wow.good point with the gender comment, naima. it ...wow.<BR/><BR/>good point with the gender comment, naima. it seems like the leaving/silence issue would be a problem for any person who finds him or herself in the minority or faced with the "ignorant" person dilemma josh describes. obviously it's different when you're a white man since "leaving" never really means leaving completely; that is, you can leave the "ignorant" person or the hypothetical situation where you feel disrespected by a group of, say, black men simply because of your race, but you never really have to leave or be silent in the greater context of society.<BR/><BR/>josh, who's the "they" in the last sentence?Zachhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11956632033851983060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8121143914762345890.post-53487834675544494502007-11-03T22:32:00.000-05:002007-11-03T22:32:00.000-05:00josh, thanks for posting on this issue. i think it...josh, thanks for posting on this issue. i think it is a question that many of us struggle with daily. we all have different views and experience regarding these questions of "leaving" and "silence." i'm wondering a couple of things.<BR/><BR/>josh - what exactly do you mean when you say "and only they know if we truly leave at all"? i'm not sure i understood it but i think it's a crucial point, esp. considering that you end on it.<BR/><BR/>others - how do we think these issues of leaving/silence either change or do not across genders?<BR/><BR/>keep it coming yall!Naimahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15991412126150850379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8121143914762345890.post-84108255678456082952007-10-31T11:37:00.000-05:002007-10-31T11:37:00.000-05:00Josh, this post is amazing.thank you.Josh, this post is amazing.<BR/>thank you.Franceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09456088308502710996noreply@blogger.com